As a counselor, I'm trained to listen to what a family/couple/individual talks about; but I'm also listening to what they're NOT talking about. There is often a lot of important information in the latter.
We're in an ordeal of an extended presidential campaign and there are three things we're generally not talking about. We're not talking because they're the three biggest issues our country is facing and we have no answers. We simply have no answers.
Those issues are:
1 What to do with our appetite for drugs. Drugs are killing us.
2 What to do with our sexuality -- the crisis in masculinity and femininity, durable couples' relationships, workplace relationships, homosexuality, abortion, fidelity, pornography, tolerance, what to do with strong women leaders, incest and molestation, feminism -- the whole spectrum. Our sexism and sexual confusion is killing us.
3 Race. The legacy of our slavery, our imperialism toward Indians, our abuse and manipulation of poor whites and its ugly aftermath continues to this day -- not just in the South but everywhere in this country. A powerful spiritual lesson for anyone interested in learning about the enduring, violent consequences of trying to build wealth at the expense of others. This includes our pathetic and deplorable treatment of Hispanics. Our racial tensions are killing us.
We have no answers. We have jingoistic, silly slogans and simplistic, bigoted outbursts. But we have no answers. We tried, "Just Say No." Cheap and simple, it didn't work. We tried, "Christ is the answer." We've tried all manner of psychological fixes. None have shown good results.
The economy? No big deal. It will fix itself. Iraq? We'll muddle our way out somehow. Health care? Some structure will work a little better.
The ill-chosen outbursts of Barack Obama's former pastor forced Mr. Obama to address the issue of race head-on. So he did. It was an outstanding speech; thoughtful, understanding, fair and courageous. We need that. We need more of it. If Jeremiah Wright triggered that, then so be it. Again and again, we're hearing people say of Barack, "He spoke to us as an adult to adults." Remarkable. Unheard of in presidential politics. I hope you will find Barack Obama's speech on the internet and listen attentively, or find the entire text and read it carefully.
I'm not looking for a president who has all the answers. I don't trust anyone who claims to have all the answers. I'm not looking for a president who says, "I, I, I." I'm looking for a president who knows how to say, "We." "Yes we can." And who listens. I'm looking for a president who acts like an adult, who treats us like adults. A president who will gather us together and hold us together while we work our way together in this clumsy democracy toward answers that none of us, no group of us, alone, can yet imagine or express. I'm looking for a president who holds out hope; hope that we can and will move forward on these issues together.
To begin, we have to hear, then talk about what we're not talking about. The hard stuff. The impossible issues. Find the speech. Read or listen to the speech. Think about it. "Yes we can."
Peace, Warren